Understanding your resistance habits could be the best thing for your motivation
Understanding your resistance habits goes a long way to helping you make progress towards your BIG, BOLD, BEAUTIFUL life goals. In this post we explore how your resistance habits will inevitably hold you back, and how befriending them could help you resist the resistance.
I'm not a fan of conflict. Never have been, never will be. You see I'm Libra Sun & Moon so I value diplomacy and peace above many other things. Justice and fairness are also my drivers, so I will spend more time thinking about the balance of two sides of an issue. This can cause challenges if you're a hugely empathetic person because you will often place the feelings of the other person on the side of any particular conflict above your own.
What I have learned through many many situations of trials and errors (oh so many errors), is that if I stick my head in the sand things get 100 times harder than they need to be. This resistance to deal used to come about because I either don't want to upset someone else, I wanted to avoid a tough conversation, or I didn't want to come across as a complete B and end up being unlikeable.
So I would either run away from a situation completely, ghost the situation - never explaining to the other person why I had pulled away, or make myself miserable stagnating in a space or place that doesn't serve me, or the other people in the whole goddamn mess!
As I've done the work (AKA never stop doing the freaking work) I've gained the self-awareness for how these resistance and avoidance tactics show up. And how, instead of running away from them, I can face the storm (which is never really a storm, more a strong breeze) and find a way through that works from a place of self-preservation and owning my own space.
- Over-complicating things
- Pushing things away
- Hitting the F*ck It button
- Fear of Failure
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